Answer to Formspring Question

This post was inspired by a question on formspring that I received today. I am assuming it came from a twitter or blog follower (most people on facebook don't see my formspring tab). Here is the question:

In reference to your post dated March 8, 2010, "Being a woman...more than being single or married": As someone who has never been in a relationship, do you feel you have enough knowledge/experience to back this post up?

Original Post was me venting some of my thoughts after attending a conference at church.  I had to go back and read what I wrote to be able to respond to the question. I honestly wish I knew who sent the question I  do hope the read my response.

My response is simple and something I get frustrated about often. People often assume just because I have not been in a relationship that I don't have the knowledge or experience to comment on certain things. A lot of people also think I can't understand things about relationships.  I will admit I am not expert, but that does not negate how I feel and what I see.  I honestly do not know what points he was referring to in my original post so I am going to bullet point my response and hope that it answers the question.

1. Me being a woman is not based on who I am with or not with. Rather I have been in a relationship or not I still understand what being a woman is from my perspective. A person who chooses to be single their whole life (some people do) does not make them less of a man or a woman.
2. In original post I had issues with everything going back to men....if I never met a man in my life I would still be a woman.  My life does not revolve around a man...and no I am not the super "independant woman" (will write about more in next point)
3. Although I have never been in a relationship it does not mean I don't know what I want in a relationship. I have been approached by men...and women on various occasions, and have actually "talked" to a few, but a relationship never evolved. Dating in high school was not an option, had other things going on in college, and now I am an adult. Do I want to be in a relationship yes, but it is not the focus of my life...when it happens it happens. I do have my moments when I question, but overall I am good.
4. Being a wife or a mother does not make me a woman, but they are roles that women play. One day I hope to fill those roles, but am I less of a woman, because I am not in those roles at this point in my life...NOPE! I think so many people see a single person and assume that there is something wrong if they are single...maybe they are happy where they are in life, maybe they are working on some things for themselves.

I honestly don't know if this answers the question that was posed. If the person who posed the question will clarify that would be great!  I just said on twitter...I am so not a writer. I blog to vent and get out my thoughts. They don't always make sense, but they are a part of what is going on in my head.

What should I write about???

This morning I was reading my blogs and my daily subscriptions and I was thinking...what should I write about? I have about 5 or 6 blogs that are in draft mode...but honestly I don't know if I want to finish them, oh well. I was thinking I always write what is going on in my head and in my heart, but I never ask the people who read my blog what they would like me to write about.

I know I don't have a mega blog with lots of followers, but I thank you for the people who do take the time out to read my blog rather it be on occasion or whenever I post. I have about 38 followers which I am shocked, but once again thankful for.  Like the title of my blog says....if you only knew. The thoughts that I write are random and things that I can not always express to people I know so this blog gives me a chance to open up as much as I can to people who hopefully don't change me except my words for what they are....my words.

So...with all that said. Is there anything any of you would like to ask me? Anything you would like me to address or write about?  You can post a comment on this blog or if you want to remain anonymous you can ask on my formspring page (link is on right side of blog) or you can even send me a message on twitter...take your pick.

Looking forward to your responses or lack of responses.... Hope everyone is enjoying the weather. I am about to leave work and hopefully enjoy it myself too!!