Saturday Morning Muses: questions

I missed last week :-( so I have put a reminder on my calendar....I need this

Yesterday I was browsing instagram and came across a picture which once again caused me to ask why me? What did I do wrong? Sometimes you can have so much confidence in yourself, but the littlest things make you question so much.

Life comes at you sometimes and you think about how things will be, how could the past be different, what is happening in the present.  I am a questioner, I question a lot period, but when life is not going how you think it should???? So many questions.....

Maybe this mood will pass, I hope it is a learning experience.

Last Days of Work.....

Yesterday was probably the last full day of my current job...I have to go through a series of exit interviews and I started yesterday. When I got out my colleagues (coworkers, boss...whatever you want to call them) had surprised me with a going away party. I was totally shocked. My boss took me out to lunch with the other researcher on her team last week and hadn't planned on anything else. 

I have mixed emotions about leaving, but I know what I am doing is what is best for me in the long run...I have had ups and downs and my current job. It was not perfect, but I loved what I did and I actually liked the people that I worked with. Didn't always agree and we all had different styles, but we worked well together. My next job is a step in the direction I want to go in my career in the long term.  I am stepping outside of my comfort zone and allowing myself to learn new skills and really get exposed to more things. 

I know have becoming increasingly frustrated with the small things that irritate me....but I honestly believe that is because I know I am leaving.  I question sometimes should I leave, but I know it is the right decision. I have to do what is best for me. Honestly this job, I don't remember applying for because I was not looking for another full time job.  I will not go until details about everything that irritates me about my current job, but trust....I have put up with a lot. 

I am moving on and excited. I will keep in contact with my old job they have taught me so much and will use those skills for a long time.  I thank God for the experience and look forward to the experiences at my new job.

Quote that touched me today....

One of my mentors is a celibate monk, and he says we can live without sex but we can't live without love. And there are a lot of people who have a lot of sex and never experience love, and people who never have sex [but] have deep experiences of intimacy and love.

-Shane Clairborne

Two Sides to Every Situation

With the recent interviewing of Whitney Houston on Oprah I have began to think about this topic more and more. People always like to believe one person's version of a situation versus another's depending on the circumstances. People like to take sides without hearing both sides. Even in our attempts to be honest...sometimes we are not. We can be jaded by situations and conveniently omit or forget parts that do not favor our stance.

I am learning to remember this in different situations I encounter...Not always good at it, but it is my goal. In interactions with other we have to see how or why the other person is responding to the situation the way they are. Their response might be based on past experience that might be bad or good. Not to justify their response, but it helps you approach the situation differently. An extreme example...You might encounter a person and you just reach out to tap them on the shoulder. Maybe they have been abused before the tap brings back memories...not good idea.

I think a lot of problems could be solved, a lot of confrontations can be handled more civilly, and relationships can become healthier if people take the time to see the other person's side. Not to say you will agree, or that you completely understand, but you have heard the other person out and you are able to hopefully reach a mutually acceptable conclusion with the situation or a better understanding of what has happened.